In Western cultures a wedding ring is traditionally worn on the left ring finger. This comes from Roman belief and tradition because it was said that vein in the left ring finger, referred to as the vena amoris was believed to be directly connected to the heart, a symbol of love.

Yesterday, I decided to get a tattoo of a heart on my ring finger.

I’m a hopeless romantic who someday believes I’ll find the greatest love of all.

The tattoo artist asked me why I didn’t want the heart shaded in.

My response, ” I want to keep my heart open. Open to new things. Open to new ideas. And open to love.”

The day I find the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and marry, my heart will be shaded in…

We hurt people that love us
Love people that hurt us
Hurt people that love us
Love people

I’m inspired
So get inspired

And so he said
Why you gotta be so kind hearted
Why you couldn’t be a con artist
Why you couldn’t, why you couldn’t be mischievous
Or just a lil devious the moment that we first started
Why you never ask for nothing, just a lil time
Why you let me use yours cus I don’t got mines
Why you always lift me up, when I’m completely giving up
Or when niggas holla what’s up, you give a dry response
Why you giving me your last knowing you ain’t got it
Why you always buy me something when you going shopping
Why you tell me that you love me
Why you always thinking of me when my company rather than going club hopping
Why you treatin’ my momma like she your momma too
Why you making promises that you’ll forever do
Whatever just to make me happy, wanting us to have a family
These are exactly the reasons why I cheat on you

It’s almost as if I can’t take anything that happens to me seriously anymore..

I mean seriously as in saying that I can’t bring myself to care enough to be severely hurt about anything anymore. To care? I mean…I can’t say I don’t care about anything. I do… Just not completely.

I’ve opened up to letting go and walking away even if it hurts. I believe we all have love/life maps that sculpt our future choices in life…You have to go through something in order to advance to another stage in your life. And that’s how I’m beginning to view emotions certain people cause us to experience in life.

Very few people we encounter will have the ability to constantly keep us happy. There will be many people who hurt us. I just view that emotion…pain, as a necessity.

Pain is inevitable.

If you view pain as one of the hurdles to true happiness.. You’ll know that you won’t be permanently damaged.

Keeping in mind that nothing that causes you pain will ever be as important as what your life/love map has planned for you ahead.

What people fail to realize is that dwelling on the past will only cause you to miss what’s really going on.

I’ve come to view pain I’ve been experiencing as acquired knowledge that was once a dark secret. Pain as a lesson and a tool to growth.

So its like if you did hurt me years ago, today, tomorrow or a year from now.. In the end it won’t matter. Perhaps you impacted some aspect of my life but you were just one of my many teachers. And the lessons I’ll continue to learn…

I terrify myself when I start to love someone or even like them.

My emotional intensity is pretty scary.

I never actually mean to care that much. But it’s in my nature. All I know is compassion and intensity.

So when I meet someone, I become totally and utterly terrified.

I have a personality that a lot of people enjoy…well until they actually get to encounter me and realize that everything with me is 10x stronger than with a normal female. Good or bad.

I try not to like or love too strongly then end up empty.

I don’t want to do it too strongly and only end up hurting from my own exhaustion.

I try not to hold on too tight and smother people. But I’m possessive. I’m aggressive.

It scares you? I know it scares me too.

I’m just trying to do it perfectly but to no avail I just keep doing it incorrectly.

Terrified of wanting to open up to people and seem too desperate. But I’m just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to like me…

You ever just wanted someone to come along and understand why certain parts of your heart remain empty?

You just want to be understood. You don’t want them to fill that void. You just want a reason not to be numb, you want a reason to feel without being terrified….

  When we ask for advice from others more than likely they tell us its best to let it go…But how do you let go of something that impacted your life? Someone you can’t go a day without thinking about? Sounds easy but the task is difficult.

Its like we’re screaming, and no one can hear what we have to say. But are we screaming loud enough?

We feel ashamed, so we only whisper.

Shamed that someone could ever be that important to us. That without them we feel like we merely don’t exist.  We whisper because we’re afraid no one will ever understand how much it hurts to have to let go. But we all do. We’ve all felt that pain, be it in different ways… We all feel, we all love and we’ve all lost love. Its like you almost feel hopeless like nothing can save you from these feelings.

When we have to let go of something we love and we realize it’s finally over and it’s actually gone…. we almost wish that we could go back and endure all the pain that has brought us here just so that we could have the good back.

But the most important thing we fail to realize is that life goes on… It’s evident in every day life. The world does not stop spinning when you’re down or something’s wrong. Everything goes on. And everyone keeps living. It’s up to you to continue living life or give up and lose hope.

We all have the potential to fall in love a billion times in our lifetime. The first time I ever fell in love I was 15. His name was Tyrie, and he always made me cry. The last man I love may be the person I love now or maybe someone I’ll meet at some other point in my life.

All these people impact your life differently, they don’t change you but they allow you to classify what love is truly supposed to feel like.

Don’t be afraid to let go…You don’t know what else could come along or how great it may be. Bless those who walk away from you because they are only making room for those who won’t.

you’ve unlocked this realm in my mind. that will feed you a verse so powerful that every time you exhale, you’ll hear the harmonic tones in my voice…

Christmas Eve night…

“We grow up in a sea of moments that slowly sculpt our romantic choices. Your mother’s wit and way with words; your father’s zest for politics and tennis; your uncle’s love of boats and hiking; your sister’s interest in training dogs; how people in your household use silence, express intimacy and anger; how those around you handle money; the amount of laughter at the dinner table; what your older brother finds challenging; your religious education and intellectual pursuits; the pastimes of your school chums; what your grandmother finds polite; how the community you live in views honor, justice, loyalty, gratitude, and kindness; what teachers admire and deplore; what you see on television and in the movies: these and thousands of other subtle forces build our individual interests, values, and beliefs. So by teenage years, each of us has constructed a catalogue of aptitudes and mannerisms we are looking for in a mate.

As we ride the waves of life and we experience a few romantic disasters, we trim and enrich this mental template.”

Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love by Helen Fisher

“Romantic love. Obsessive love. Passionate love. Infatuation. Call it what you will, men and women of every era and every culture have been “bewitched, bothered and bewildered” by this irresistible power. Being in love is universal to humanity; it is part of human nature. Moreover, this magic visits each of us in much the same way.” - H.F.

you cannot change a man, find one you love …. just the way he is.